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HIRES FR NLH MBI-3416Things I have learned thus far:

*Life can feel hard sometimes (chocolate can sometimes help)

*It SUCKS to feel alone, isolated, stuck or confused (that is when I watch videos of baby goats dancing around in sweaters) Baby Goats — SQUEE

*Everyone has fears and reservations. They just don’t always talk about them especially on social media

*Self loathing and beating yourself up is draining and NOT motivating for change

*Asking for help takes courage and is not a sign of weakness

*Fart Jokes are always funny (we can argue the merits of The Stooges another time)

More than ten years ago, I was at my breaking point. Consumed by work, obsessed with food and depressed by my weight, I had an all-or-nothing attitude that kept me locked in a no-win struggle. A highly motivated and intelligent person, I felt like a BIG/FAT/FAILURE. I was plagued by shame. Everything seemed out of my control. I had tried so many times and ways to lose weight and gain control over my life.I understood that changes needed to be made. But how? I didn’t know where to start.

I decided to seek professional help. I was finally able to begin to make significant lifestyle changes and address my troubled relationship with food and my own body. It was a slow process but ultimately a rewarding one. After group and individual counseling to help me start to heal childhood trauma and abuse,  I elected to have gastric bypass surgery in 2007. It was the best tool I chose to help me with my goal of weight loss. While recovering from surgery, I read the “Joy Diet” by Dr. Martha Beck (author, speaker, columnist in O Magazine, and Oprah’s Life coach) – and it changed my life. The world of Life Coaching opened me up in ways that I found more fulfilling than anything else I had ever done. Life Coaching was the intersection of my own personal growth and my mission to be of service to the world.

I have lost half my body weight and one sad replica of me, switched careers, leaving marketing for a career in health & wellness. So many years later, I am still maintaining my weight loss and finally live in a fully connected space in my life. How did I get here?

Every day, I am reminded that my work continues. I try to recognize and address destructive emotional patterns, behaviors, and mental thought processes that could continue my dysfunctional relationship with food and self-care. I have been able to establish healthy routines that support me and ultimately adopted a new active lifestyle. I speak up for myself at work. I don’t hind my opinions or my talents. My strategies are not unique and can be learned and customized for anyone.

In the Fall of 2012, I tackled (with the help of a great Wellness Coach) my smoking. It was the hardest thing I ever did. I miss smoking everyday even more than my unhealthy food. It’s 2017 and I am still smoke free and really proud to add this to my list of accomplishments.

Everyone has the capacity for self-care and fulfillment in their lives. What does living fully mean to you? Do you want a new career? Start a new relationship? Move somewhere great? What are you waiting for? Let’s do it together.

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In the land of the Goat Warrior Princess

Once upon a time, in the land of the Goat Warrior Princess it was a glorious day in the kingdom. Our dearest F (who is also a sure-footed brave warrior from the Mountain Goat Clan as well as a glorious princess) was sleepy as she got up from her royal blue fluffy sheets.  Even warrior princesses like soft and fluffy things for sleeping.

Still groggy, she walks around her quarters stretching her strong warrior arms, pushing back curtains and opening windows to let in the light and soft breezes of the day. She is tired from slaying demons (some real, some imaginary, some solely her own) the night before. Wearily she walks past the strange box that hums with the clickety-clack buttons. We wonder if this wretched box is cursed and drains our goat princess of her warrior powers.  Sometimes our goat princess sends wise messages through the box to people in far-away lands. Why send her messages through the clickety-clack box instead of using steadfast ravens?

We watch as she dresses for battle. No chain mail or leather cuffs instead she puts on strange garments and slicks her wild red hair back demurely. Maybe this is some sort of disguise to confuse the badlands demons?  Perhaps if the demons do not suspect her true identity then they will not engage her in battle to steal her inner light. Warrior princesses have this brilliant white light that shines through their hair, their clothes and their person. It illuminates dark corners of our world. It diminishes the power of the badland demons and threatens their existence.

She exits her abode and moves toward her beautiful metallic horse. It is grey, shiny and happily responds to F’s commands. As she sits astride it, we marvel at her speeding through the badlands with such bravery and confidence (just like everything she does that makes us proud to be in her service).

Our brave goat princess arrives at a shabby forest with a clearing that has other metallic steeds and walks toward a short, ugly brick and glass edifice. What type of poor kingdom is this? It must be a kingdom in need of a champion. The warrior princess ascends many floors by commanding a large coffin that carries her upwards. Thankfully she arrives at her station. We watch anxiously as a strange creature approaches our princess. This creature has the hair color of bed linens and things painted over her eyes which give her a continuously surprised appearance.  Her lips curl and the creature bares her unnaturally glowing teeth at F. It may be a demon that has taken over one of the shabby kingdom’s villagers. Our goat princess is confident but cautious. We wait for F to raise her weapon and slay the beast by chopping its head off. Today is different. Instead a wry smile passes over the princess’s lips. F faces the demon and disarms them with pleasant chatter.  The beast leaves with no armed combat. As F watches the demon walk away she whispers to herself “foul beast I should have beaten you to death with your own leg.”

Evil was thwarted this day and our goat warrior princess didn’t even need to draw her sword or chop off any demon body parts. She continues to be our champion and lives to fight another day.  THE END FOR NOW…

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